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Motivated to do… what?

Motivated to do… what?

When we talk about motivation, the usual view is that we are either motivated or not motivated.

It feels like that, especially when procrastination kicks in big time. And we simply feel too lazy, too distracted or too unwilling to do whatever it is we ‘should be doing’.

But i would like you to consider a different view. A view that we are always motivated. The question is: motivated to do what? (more…)

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Embrace your anger, it’s good for you

Embrace your anger, it’s good for you

If you are like me, you probably don’t like feeling jealous, envious, angry, frustrated, bitter or resentful. Not only these emotions feel bad, but there is also a lot of stigma attached to them. Unlike feelings of guilt, sadness or fear, anger and jealousy get a lot of bad press in our society. We are told it is wrong to feel angry. And many people train themselves to never show these kind of emotions, ever. (more…)

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Do You Want To know Your Own Power?

Do You Want To know Your Own Power?

There are two types of clients that comes to see me. Those who are prepared to take control over their lives and want me to guide them to this state of ‘mastery’ and those who want a ‘magic pill’ that would take the problem away and want me to do all the magic. Well, I am a bit unfair, we all want some magic (myself included) and support and help. But nothing slows the process of overcoming eating problems or anxiety as much as this attitude of ‘give me the goods and don’t ask for me to do a thing’. (more…)

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You can’t control your reactions? Here is why. Part 2

You can’t control your reactions? Here is why. Part 2

I hope you understand more about the importance of moods and emotions in the way you react to things. In fact they are important in all decision making processes. They influence how you see interactions, situations and events in your life and how you see others. And it influences how you react to what people say to you.

And of course you know that. You know that when you are in a bad mood, or disappointed with yourself in some ways, no matter how nice people are (and no matter how hard your partner tries to make you feel loved), you just don’t feel it anyway. It feels that they must be lying or trying too hard, and even if they are completely genuine in their affection, you just don’t trust it. (more…)

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You can’t control your reactions? Here is why. Part 1

You can’t control your reactions? Here is why. Part 1

Have you ever tried to understand – or to change – your emotional responses to situations or to behaviours of others, only to feel more confused than ever. Have you tried to feel better about your body, your weight, your friends, your family, your work and yet couldn’t change any of that? Have you tried to be more positive only to end up feeling even more frustrated with yourself? (more…)

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The Truth About Anxiety. Part 1

The Truth About Anxiety. Part 1

I am going to start with a statement that is not very positive but, unfortunately, seems to be true: Collectively, as a society, we are experiencing the epidemic of anxiety. Especially young people. But not just young people. It seems to be everywhere, and almost everyone seems to be somehow touched by it. Many people regularly experience panicky, gnawing, heavy sensations of being trapped by fear. Nasty sensations of being out of control, unable to sleep, unable to concentrate or remember things. (more…)

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Bulimia and change of mind

Bulimia and change of mind

Rosie had Bulimia since she could remember. This is why she was thrilled when she was free from it, finally! She loved the feeling of being in control, something she hasn’t experienced for a long time. You saved my live, she said to me in the last session, it feels so new to me, I want to run outside and just do things! she shouted. Her energy was palpable. I knew exactly what she was experiencing. This surge of energy always comes when we genuinely let go. She wasn’t used to it and it still felt like an exaggerated sense of vitality, something she could hardly contain. (more…)

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