When you look for clues about how to resolve anxiety, have you noticed how many sites talk about fighting it? Beating anxiety. Winning the battle with anxiety. Tips to fight anxiety. Revealing battle with anxiety. How I beat anxiety. The anxiety was winning. Battling with anxiety. Defeating it, winning the battle with anxiety… (more…)
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My view on overeating and binge eating is very simple; it is about emotional discomfort that you are so used to, you don’t even notice any more. It is not about a-date-gone-wrong-so-i-cry-in-the-bucket-of-ice-cream, it is not about what happened today or even yesterday. It is about a more chronic, ongoing, consistent feeling of slight mental and emotional off-ness.
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In my last post I talked about why all behaviours have some purpose or logic behind them. I hopefully convinced you that there may be some reason why we behave in certain ways, even if the behaviours are not what we want. I also told you that often the seemingly irrational behaviours create a pressure valve that, temporarily at least, eases off some emotional hurt you may feel. And the quickest way to recovery is finding more constructive ways of easing off the pressure. Preferably, by changing how we feel permanently. But to do this, you may need to understand emotions a little bit more. Especially negative emotions, where they come from and how to change them. (more…)
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I want to share a few points that is central to my work as a therapist. I would like to start with a very important (in my view) premise that every single behaviour, no matter how weird or illogical, is in fact logical and purposeful. It may not appear logical, and it may go against what you rationally want. But it doesn’t change the fact that, considering what goes on inside your mind, this behaviour serves a purpose. There is a reason for it to take place. (more…)
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