I love working with women who compulsively overeat. There is a reason why I love this work so much, because the results are very tangible and easy to notice. A shift in eating patterns tells me that the problem – whatever it was – is gone! And the shift is always obvious; they feel motivated to eat healthy with no struggle. It just becomes naturally easy. (more…)CONTINUE READING
STEP TWO — Believing that it is possible to achieve what you want (having hope).
Question to ask: Do I believe that a complete recovery is possible?
While the first step is absolutely essential to your recovery, believing that it is possible – not just for you, but also for others – can open doors and create opportunities you would have otherwise missed. Once you believe that what you want is possible, your brain would look for ways to do it. But if you believe the opposite, all you notice are the reasons why it is not possible. (more…)CONTINUE READING
I am not sure if you have ever worked with your limiting beliefs, the thoughts-stories that we believe in without even knowing that we do. And we usually don’t even know how much they stop us until we consciously transform them. It often feels like we take the foot off the break and are able to breathe and move forwards.
In moments of most discomfort, times when we feel really intense emotion, these beliefs are usually ripe and ready to be released. Or rather, we are ready to step up, expand into being more authentic and more who we want to be. And while instinctively we want to fight and push against the intense discomfort, the only way to move forward is to accept the calling. Something needs to change – internally – we are called to examine and let go of what holds us back. So we are free to step up to more freedom, more well being, more self-love. (more…)CONTINUE READING
If you are like me, you probably don’t like feeling jealous, envious, angry, frustrated, bitter or resentful. Not only these emotions feel bad, but there is also a lot of stigma attached to them. Unlike feelings of guilt, sadness or fear, anger and jealousy get a lot of bad press in our society. We are told it is wrong to feel angry. And many people train themselves to never show these kind of emotions, ever. (more…)CONTINUE READING
Have you ever tried to understand – or to change – your emotional responses to situations or to behaviours of others, only to feel more confused than ever. Have you tried to feel better about your body, your weight, your friends, your family, your work and yet couldn’t change any of that? Have you tried to be more positive only to end up feeling even more frustrated with yourself? (more…)CONTINUE READING
Sometimes things get hard. And in the moments when they get hard what do we do? We doubt. We question every single choice we’ve ever made. We question and doubt and question and doubt until it feels sore deep inside. And then the hurt makes us doubt even more. A vicious cycle that eats away all hope and happiness.
I could talk about it for a long time. But I won’t. (more…)CONTINUE READING
The past doesn’t exist. It’s gone. Done. Expired.
The future doesn’t exist.
You don’t exist in the past. Or the future.
You only exist in this moment. And this moment. And now this moment. And now this moment. And now this moment…
You only exist in a single moment. That’s it. Here and now. Moving from a moment to a moment, from a now to a now. And now. And now. Another now… (more…)CONTINUE READING
Have you ever sabotaged yourself? Knowing exactly what you should do and yet doing something else? Wanting to lose weight and yet avoiding the gym? Wanting to look healthy and yet eating junk?
Have you ever felt unmotivated to do what you really needed to do? Exercise? Finish the assignment? Ring your auntie?
Do you believe that if you only had more motivation your life would be so much better?
Well, you are not alone. (more…)CONTINUE READING
In my last post I talked about why all behaviours have some purpose or logic behind them. I hopefully convinced you that there may be some reason why we behave in certain ways, even if the behaviours are not what we want. I also told you that often the seemingly irrational behaviours create a pressure valve that, temporarily at least, eases off some emotional hurt you may feel. And the quickest way to recovery is finding more constructive ways of easing off the pressure. Preferably, by changing how we feel permanently. But to do this, you may need to understand emotions a little bit more. Especially negative emotions, where they come from and how to change them. (more…)CONTINUE READING