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Did your bingeing get worse at Easter?

Did your bingeing get worse at Easter?

As Easter is drawing to the end, families and friends are making their way home, recipe books are being put away and leftovers neatly stored in the fridge. For many of us it was a nice break, catching up with family and friends or taking advantage of the glorious weather and spending time in nature.

Sadly, for many, the chocolate-y temptations, the abundance of food, and in particular the lack of control over what is being served and eaten at family gatherings, spiked the pattern of bingeing on food. The tension starts days before the holiday, with fearful anticipation of ‘bad’ foods being served and sweets being available, with tension of having to manage festivities somehow, without giving away the ‘secret’ bingeing or overeating habits.

For these who struggle to keep their eating habits under control, the getting together and the celebration is almost never joyful. Cakes and chocolate might be easy to resist when every one is around the table, but later, alone on the kitchen, the lure may prove too much. Eating alone, faster than necessary, hiding from others in shame, many ended Easter with endless guilt, shame and disappointment. But also a relief, that the temptation and distress will soon be gone.

If you are this person, or know someone who can’t break the cycle of bingeing and overeating, please understand, it doesn’t have to continue. There are many ways to deal with it and many solutions, the Mind Detox program is just one of many available. Start with a simple understanding; it is not your fault, you are not weak, you are not alone and it is not about food. It is about mental patterns that can be discovered and changed.

Allow yourself to find a way to change those patterns and free yourself from this horrific and constant distress. And then, the next opportunity to get together with friends will be a truly happy one. I wish that for you with my whole heart, because it can be done.

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Easiest way to re-program your mind

Easiest way to re-program your mind

Deepak Chopra once said that if we just ask a question, the universe has to answer. I must add that from the psychological and even physiological point of view, this makes total sense. And I don’t even mean that some mysterious universal forces will be raining answers onto us, but rather that – in a more mundane way – asking questions puts your brain to work.

As you ask a question, the brain will respond with tuning into things that you asked for or about. But there is more that happens. Your brain will take what is ‘assumed’ in the question to be true and guide you accordingly. A question would make your mind and your emotions respond in a different way, depending on the ‘flavour’ of the question. And the brain will produce different chemicals based on that ‘flavour’.

Let me explain. When you ask certain types of questions, like the ‘why’ questions, there is a part of each of these questions that is ‘assumed to be true’. When you ask ‘what is wrong with me’, you aren’t really asking of things are actually wrong with you or not. You give yourself no chance, because you assume they are. And you are just asking ‘what specifically’. So the brain will help you to find what is wrong over and over again. It will make you notice your faults more.

And if that’s true, what happens when you ask: What can be the worst thing that happens? Or What else can go wrong?

Often, the questions we ask are full of judgment and criticism: Why do I always have to end up with a wrong guy? Why do I always end up in debt? Why can’t I find a soul mate? And the one that tops it all: Why am I so cursed?

And if what Deepak says is true, and the whole universe conspire to show you want is wrong with you, why you are cursed or what can go wrong. No wonder that these question leave you feeling so deeply disempowered – you want things to improve and all you are getting is more of the same or worse.

We often ask the negative questions without even being aware of it. But it doesn’t mean that – with a little bit of effort – we cannot become fully aware and change the programing quite rapidly. If positive change is what you want, maybe it is time to start asking different questions.

You can do this by consciously and deliberately asking some simple questions; how do I want to feel? How does it feel to be at peace? How does it feel to be good to myself? And rather than answering them, just let them hung there, in a question form. And move to the next one. What do I like? What would be the nicest thing I could do today?

If you feel really bold, you can then ask: What is the best thing that can happen today? What could be fun? What can be the most magical thing? Again, don’t try to think of the answers, and if you feel that the answers coming to you are somewhat negative (like, yeah, right, nothing magical comes to me ever!), just move to questions that don’t awaken these negative reactions.

You could ask questions that are about more general things, like your home, family, your life and your friends. Ask about things that are easy to feel good about: What do I like about my home? What do I like about my life? What do I like about my best friend? My children? How does it feel to be at peace? How doe it feel to have a good day? How would it feel to know I will have a good day?

And if you don’t feel good about things, or you had been feeling really down lately, ask questions that are least specific; How doe it feel to be at peace? What would my day feel like if I was okay today? How would it feel to simply be okay and at ease? How would it feel not to try to change things but just relax? How does it feel to relax? How does it feel to be at ease?

I encourage you to do this one thing today, start asking positive questions. Don’t try to find the answers, just throw some good vibe questions out there in the air and watch what happens. And watch where your brain (or the universe) can take you as soon as today. It may knock your socks off in the most amazing ways.

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Bulimia. Why do you do it?

Bulimia. Why do you do it?

How many time have you googled ‘bulimia’. Or ‘how to stop’, or ‘what it bulimia’?. You wanted clarity but instead, you have been feeling more and more confused in your search for the answers.

Many of the sites tend to talk about bulimia in terms of behaviours associated with it. It makes us believe that the behaviours are the problem. And of course they are, because they can make you really unwell. But at the same time, they aren’t the problem and therefore should not be the focus of your recovery. (more…)

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Finding your way out of depression, part 2

Finding your way out of depression, part 2

Part 2

STEP TWO — Believing that it is possible to achieve what you want (having hope).

Question to ask: Do I believe that a complete recovery is possible?

While the first step is absolutely essential to your recovery, believing that it is possible – not just for you, but also for others – can open doors and create opportunities you would have otherwise missed. Once you believe that what you want is possible, your brain would look for ways to do it. But if you believe the opposite, all you notice are the reasons why it is not possible. (more…)

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Finding your way out of depression, part 1

Finding your way out of depression, part 1

Part 1

I am not sure if you have ever worked with your limiting beliefs, the thoughts-stories that we believe in without even knowing that we do. And we usually don’t even know how much they stop us until we consciously transform them. It often feels like we take the foot off the break and are able to breathe and move forwards.

In moments of most discomfort, times when we feel really intense emotion, these beliefs are usually ripe and ready to be released. Or rather, we are ready to step up, expand into being more authentic and more who we want to be. And while instinctively we want to fight and push against the intense discomfort, the only way to move forward is to accept the calling. Something needs to change – internally – we are called to examine and let go of what holds us back. So we are free to step up to more freedom, more well being, more self-love. (more…)

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Motivated to do… what?

Motivated to do… what?

When we talk about motivation, the usual view is that we are either motivated or not motivated.

It feels like that, especially when procrastination kicks in big time. And we simply feel too lazy, too distracted or too unwilling to do whatever it is we ‘should be doing’.

But i would like you to consider a different view. A view that we are always motivated. The question is: motivated to do what? (more…)

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Emotions as a road map

Emotions as a road map

I want to talk about emotions today.

First of all, I would invite you to inspect closely your own reaction to the word ‘emotion’. Because words are not just empty symbols describing something objective out there. They carry meaning. Lots of meanings and lots of associations. And they can tell you about the cultural influences that you have been exposed to, the society that molded, sculpted your psyche. (more…)

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